By Roy Steele
Today in gay self loathing…….
I know I’m not the only person who was stunned by what gay fashion designers Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana, the powerhouse duo responsible for Dolce & Gabbana, said during an interview with Panorama magazine.
Domenico Dolce: “You are born to a mother and a father. Or at least that’s how it should be. The only family is the traditional one. No chemical offsprings and rented uterus: life has a natural flow; there are things that should not be changed.”
Stefano Gabbana: “The family is not a fad. In it there is a supernatural sense of belonging.”Are you fucking kidding me?
Many people beside myself are outraged by these statements, within the gay community, and outside as well. Sir Elton John, the singing superstar and gay elder statesman, has called for a boycott of Dolce & Gabbana products, via Instagram.
Sir Elton John: “How dare you refer to my beautiful children as ‘synthetic.’ And shame on you for wagging your judgmental little fingers at IVF—a miracle that has allowed legions of loving people, both straight and gay, to fulfill their dream of having children. Your archaic thinking is out of step with the times, just like your fashions. I shall never wear Dolce and Gabbana ever again.” #BoycottDolceGabbanaBravo Sir Elton! After the Panorama interview was published, the designing duo released a statement that was reported in The Guardian newspaper.
Domenico Dolce said: “I was talking about my personal view, without judging other people’s choices and decisions.”
Stefano Gabbana said: “We talked about our way of seeing reality, but it was never our intention to judge other people’s choices. We do believe in freedom and love.”They say they didn’t mean to “judge” others. They expressed their personal opinion, and while the public might be offended, they say it’s their personal opinion. “Don’t be offended” they say, “we aren’t judging you.” And the sky is purple?
Stefano Gabbana via Instagram writes: “Respect comes from accepting different views!”Respect comes from accepting different views? I think not.
People are entitled to have different opinions, and I support free thinking, free speech and freedom of expression. Concomitantly, respect is earned, and it’s a two way street.
I do not, and will not, extend respect to any individual or organization that holds an opinion that unjustly criticizes or diminishes gay, lesbian, bisexual, or transgender, people, LGBT relationships, or family units.
While these errant opinions are usually caused by ignorance or stupidity, no one gets a free pass. Especially when they’re two gay men who should know better.
To boycott or not boycott --- that is the question --- and I know one or two things about a boycott. While there are calls to boycott Dolce & Gabbana, what’s the goal or desired outcome? No one has articulated a goal yet, and until they do, any boycott will be ineffective.
In the meantime, it will be interesting to see how these assholes get out of this mess.
I hereby declare that the Dolce & Gabbana accessories in my own closet are officially out of season and now retired.
Jive in the  straight talk in a queer world.