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October 17, 2011

Another Gay Teen Tragedy: 15 Year Old Boy Ends His Life

Jamie Hubley, 15 is pictured with his father Allan Hubley. Jamie tragically took his own life.
Ottawa City Councilor Allan Hubley and his gay son Jamie Hubley

A 15 year old gay student and resident of Ottawa, Ontario, Canada’s capital city, tragically ended his life by suicide this past weekend. Jamie Hubley had been chronicling his battle with depression, and was blogging about being bullied, with the attendant fears and anxiety that accompanies being targeted on his tumblr blog, that he called “You can’t break. . . When you're already broken.” 

Jamie Hubley posted an image on his blog that says Never underestimate how far someone will go to end the pain .
An image posted on Jamie Hubley's Tumblr blog - Never underestimate how far someone will go to end the pain .

Jamie’s blog posts reflected the inner pain he felt as a victim of bullying and being an out gay teen. Some blog entries reflected his angst very clearly.

How fucking long is this going to last. People said “It gets better”. It's fucking bullshit.

Cut my face. Fuck.

Jamie Hubley posted a photo of what appears to be someone intending to jump from the top of the Golden Gate Bridge.
An image posted on Jamie Hubley's Tumblr blog of a someone perched high above the roadway on Golden Gate Bridge.

His last blog post was tagged "suicide note.”

I'm a casualty of love.

Well, I’m tired of life really. It’s so hard, Im sorry, I cant take it anymore.

Being sad is sad: /. I’ve been like this for way too long. I can't stand school, I can't stand earth, I can't stand society, I can't stand the scars on my arms, I can't fucking stand any fucking thing.

I don't want my parents to think this is their fault either ... I love my mom and dad :) It's just too hard. I don't want to wait 3 more years, this hurts too much. How do you even know It will get better? It's not.

I hit rock fucking bottom, fell through a crack, now I'm stuck.

Jamie Hubley's Dad - Allan Hubley is an Ottawa City Councilor , and his biography reflects that he “was recognized for his extensive community service in Kanata South and was chosen the City of Ottawa’s Citizen of the Year. In 2008, Allan was chosen by the Governor General to receive the Caring Canadian Award at Rideau Hall for his community and volunteer work.

Jamie Hubley posted this image on his blog, that repeatedly says "self hate."
An image posted on Jamie Hubley's Tumblr blog that says self hate.

My heart goes out to Allan Hubley, his wife Wendy, and Jamie’s brother and sister. I can’t imagine how tough this is for them or any other family experiencing the loss of a child or a sibling, especially when the tragedy might have been preventable.

The Ottawa Citizen reports that “suicide disproportionately affects gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender youth.”

On September 24th 2011, Erin Anderssen wrote in the Canadian newspaper, The Globe and Mail, that suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among teens in Canada. 

In Ottawa and the surrounding rural area, a shocking number of families are still trying to understand why their children made similarly terrible choices and what they could have done to prevent it. In June last year, six young people died at their own hands in small towns southwest of the capital – stoic, old-fashioned places where most parents still worry far more about kids driving home in the dark from bush parties than about problems like depression or anxiety. At least two more suicides followed last September.

In the United States, our land of the free and the home of the brave, the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported that in 2007 34,598 Americans committed suicide. The Morbidity and Mortality Report stated that suicide was the 11th leading cause of death, and also said that the rate of suicides are influenced by biological, psychological, social, moral, political, and economic factors. The statistical report also stated the following:

To reduce the rates of suicide among groups that are affected disproportionately, substantial public health investments are needed to address the health and well-being of persons at risk and to support the widespread implementation of culturally relevant and effective programs. Prevention efforts and resources also should be directed toward adults aged 40--54 years, the population that recently has had increases in suicides but often is overlooked as a specific group for prevention efforts.

It is incredibly sad when any human being elects to end their life. That sadness is magnified ten-fold when a teenager takes their life. We rarely hear about suicides in the news unless someone famous, or lately - a gay teen, tragically ends their life. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry says:

Suicides among young people continue to be a serious problem. Each year in the U.S., thousands of teenagers commit suicide. Suicide is the third leading cause of death for 15-to-24-year-olds, and the sixth leading cause of death for 5-to-14-year-olds.

The CDC also reports that there are an estimated 8 to 25 attempted suicides to 1 completion. Imagine those numbers if you can - that translates to 280,000 to 875,000 suicide attempts a year. That's staggering.

The Suicide Awareness Voices of Education (SAVE) website cites the following statistics:

  1. Many who attempt suicide never seek professional care.
  2. Over half of all suicides are completed with a firearm.
  3. 80% of people that seek treatment for depression are treated successfully.
  4. 1 in 65,000 children ages 10 to 14 commit suicide each year.
  5. Suicide is the 11th leading cause of death in the US (homicide is 15th). (CDC)
  6. Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death for 15- to 24-year-old Americans. (CDC)
  7. It is estimated that there are at least 4.5 million survivors in this country. (AAS)
  8. An average of one person dies by suicide every 16.2 minutes. (CDC, AAS)
  9. Research has shown medications and therapy to be effective suicide prevention.
  10. Suicide can be prevented through education and public awareness.
  11. In 2004 it is estimated there were 811,000 suicide attempts in the US. (AAS)

Let's be more empathetic and nicer to each other.

R.I.P. Jamie Hubley.


Don’t be afraid to call an anonymous help line! These phenomenal organizations have trained crisis counselors around the clock to speak with you.

You can call the Trevor Project Lifeline at 1-866-4 U Trevor [1-866-488-7386].

You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK [1-800-273-8255].

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