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September 28, 2012

Two Westview High School Bullies in San Diego Arrested

 Screenshot from ABC News report of Katie Uffens of San Diego, California

By Roy Steele

San Diego, California – Just desserts for a couple of high school bullies? Two teenage boys were arrested at San Diego’s Westview High School, and led away in handcuffs, in connection with a San Diego Police Department investigation into bullying at the school.

Katie Uffens, 16, dropped out of high school after she learned that there was a “Kill Katie Klub.”

ABC News reports:
“I didn’t know if it was a joke or they were really trying to kill me,” Uffens told ABC News’ San Diego affiliate KGTV.

Her mother, Giselle Uffens, a former Mrs. California, appealed to the school administration and the San Diego police who at first declined to press charges, citing lack of evidence.

That’s when her daughter left the school, enrolling in a home-school charter program instead.

“I said we are going to move, this is going to go away,” Giselle Uffens said.

But Uffens’ mother says the bullies continued to harass her daughter online through social media.

She collected defamatory photos and comments on Facebook, Twitter and recorded dozens of allegedly threatening phone calls made to their house

“Basically, what I said to one of my friends was ‘Kill Katie Klub,’” Aguirre explained to KGTV. “It was a one-liner thing. We never had any intentions to hurt anybody.”

Aguirre acknowledged that Uffens was unpopular and didn’t deny that he picked on her. But he said he’s the real victim, having been dragged out of school publicly by police.
The police would have never made an arrest without ample evidence of bullying.

Hearing Aguirre say that “he’s the real victim” because he was arrested at school is outrageous. And why are boys bullying and denigrating a female classmate?

In a comment left by a reader at sandiego6.com, Jack Tompkins writes:
The truth will come out and people will know there is a history with this girl and her over-protective mother. The boy is a good kid and all students know there was never any malicious intent.
Only a sexist male would make the statement “there is a history with this girl” and her mother. Questioning the victim’s character is off limits. It’s like saying that a rape victim asked for it because she was dressed provocatively.

Tompkins purports to know there was no malicious intent. A bully commonly justifies their behavior by claiming they didn’t mean to hurt anyone – yet why does anyone demean or debase another human being? It’s because they want to injure or hurt whoever is the target of their taunts.

Tompkins wrote further:
I know death threats should never happen, but grow up, folks, Westview is one of the best schools in the county........... how many times do you hear somebody say “I’m going to kill you”? Happens all the time with kids and they don’t really mean it.
As confusing and maddening as his statements are – it’s most shocking that he rationalizes the behavior of bullies by stating that “Westview is one of the best schools in the county.”

No one should ever say “I’m going to kill you.” Very young kids might say it – when they don’t fully grasp the meaning of what they are saying – but high school students don’t generally say that to anyone.

With all of the school shootings we hear about every year, school administrators and police departments are becoming increasingly sensitive to death threats.

Bravo to Katie Uffens and her family for documenting the bullying. Kudos to the San Diego Police Department and the Poway Unified School District for investigating the bullies and bullying. This should be the norm in every school district – not the exception.

If you’re a parent with a child who is being bullied, document everything you can. It is extremely difficult for a school to ignore solid evidence. If the bullying becomes extreme, also call your local police department.

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Teen Tragedy: An Oklahoma Teenager Makes Bold Statement At School

Stillwater, Oklahoma -- A 13 year old student at Stillwater Junior High School brought a handgun to school, and used it to take his own life, before school started on Wednesday.

When students heard the gunshot reverberate through the school, many feared that a gunman was loose in the school. They had no idea that 8th grader Cade Poulos had turned a gun on himself. Stillwater is about 70 miles northeast of Oklahoma City.

According to the Washington Post:
Some students bolted outside Stillwater Junior High. Staffers quickly locked down the building and evacuated the rest of the school’s 700 eighth- and ninth-graders, along with students from an adjacent elementary school, police Capt. Randy Dickerson said.

Dickerson said the 13-year-old didn’t leave a note, and authorities said they don’t know why he killed himself. Superintendent Ann Caine, who oversees the district about 70 miles west of Tulsa, said there weren’t any reports that the teen had been bullied.

“There is no indication that that’s what occurred,” Caine said. She said the teen was a good student who got along with other kids.

I think it’s very interesting that school administrators almost universally respond to press inquiries that there is no record of bullying. I’m not trying to suggest that bullying played a role in this tragedy. A more plausible explanation would be that teenagers often keep what’s bothering them to themselves. If a teen is depressed or being bullied, they might never mention it to anyone, which is very sad.  

In the article "Grief greets Stillwater students returning to class after peer's suicide" Tulsaworld.com reports:
Thursday, students and faculty at Stillwater Junior High School tried to wrap their arms around the death - and themselves.

"There was a lot of hugging, even big guys hugging," Stillwater Public Schools Superintendent Ann Caine said.

Caine stood with a fellow administrator at the school's entrance Thursday morning.

"Very few students usually get dropped off by car," she said. "They ride the buses. But this morning, a lot of them came by car, and they were allowing their parents to say goodbye."

Poulos, an eighth-grader, died of a self-inflicted gunshot wound just before 8 a.m., Stillwater police said. Caine said about six students witnessed the shooting.

The superintendent was surprised that she saw “big guys hugging.” How do you like that - I guess she’s only seen little guys hug before. I’m not sure how to interpret her comment, except to say that she sounds like an ignorant school administrator.

Friends and family may never know why Cade Poulos ended his young life - but choosing to do so while he was on school property indicates that he wanted to make a bold statement regarding Stillwater Junior High School. Unfortunately, the adults in Cade’s life, both at home and at school, might never know what that message is.

RIP Cade Poulos.

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September 26, 2012

DWTS: Blonde Baywatch Bombshell Given The Boot

Dancing With The Stars; All Stars Season 15 contestant Pamela Amderson.
Dancing With The Stars; All Stars Season 15 contestant Pamela Anderson.

By Roy Steele

The Blonde Baywatch Bombshell otherwise known as Pamela Anderson, and her hunky professional dance partner Tristan MacManus, were the first couple booted off of ABC’s Dancing With The Stars: All-Stars  last night - when the week one results were revealed.

Anderson and MacManus, Drew Lachey and Anna Trebunskaya, Bristol Palin and Mark Ballas, were the three couples with the lowest scores facing elimination.

The premiere episode was impressive, as the majority of contestants are actually pretty good dancers. In addition to Anderson, Lachey and Palin, the celebrity contestants are Kirstie Alley, Sabrina Bryan, Helio Castroneves, Joey Fatone, Shawn Johnson, Kelly Monaco, Gilles Marini, Apolo Anton Ohno, Melissa Rycroft, and Emmitt Smith.

I’m not a big DWTS fan, and watched the first 2 or 3 seasons when it was new and a novelty. One aspect of the show that I had a hard time watching were the bad dancers. There is a steep learning curve the “celebrity” has to endure , and I find it boring to watch bad dancers dance badly. In past seasons, many contestants could barely remember the choreography, and half of the contestants never fully got it and that’s painful to watch too.

There's more to dancing than remembering choreography. The technique and precision must be spot on. The ability to hear the music, and feel the rhythm while moving to the beat is not easy to do. Performing in front of a live audience adds another wrinkle - and the audience at home expects the celebrities to entertain them with their dancing and theatricality.

I prefer to watch trained dancers dance - though this All-star format is pretty good - as the celebrities have been through this once before, and they can dance. I may even watch DWTS this season.

Emmitt Smith and Cheryl Burke’s cha cha cha was terrific. Watch Emmitt Smith dance next week - as he is nearly perfect. He’s light on his feet, points his toes, extends his arms correctly, and he gets it. 

This former NFL running back is phenomenal. What really sets him apart is his energy on the dance floor. He’s a true performer who seems to enjoy it all, and it comes through when he dances. I think he’s the favorite to win and the guy to beat.

I was sorry to see Pamela Anderson go. She admitted that she’s long dreamed of singing and dancing in a Broadway musical, which I thought was endearing. If you look at the cast list - she and Kirstie Alley are the biggest celebrities in the competition - and it won’t be the same without her.

Dancing With The Stars: All-Stars is on ABC on Monday and Tuesday nights. Check your local listings.

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DWTS: Size Queen Bruno Tonioli Says He Likes “It Large”

Dancing With The Stars: All-Stars Season 15 Judges Len Goodman, Carrie Ann Inaba, and Bruno Tonioli.

OH NO Bruno! Did he really say that?

The three judges on Dancing With The Stars: All-Stars are charming and funny, and they know their stuff. I like Len Goodman and Carrie Ann Inaba, but for obvious reasons Bruno Tonioli is my favorite, That queen is hysterical and makes everyone laugh week after week. The best part is that you never know what’s going to come out of his mouth.

His best comment this week was addressed to Joey Fatone.

BRUNO: You always bring it on and bring it large! And I like a man that gives it large! That’s the way to do it!

I’m sure you do like it large Bruno.

Bottom much? Bottoms Up!

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September 24, 2012

Santa Clara Police Entrap San Francisco Man On Gay Sex Site

South Bay Cops Allege Drugs Found In San Francisco Residence

By Roy Steele

Santa Clara, California -- The San Jose Mercury News is reporting that San Francisco resident Eric Dean Lewis, 42 was arrested this past weekend at a Caltrain station. The newspaper article claims that Lewis was at the train station to meet an undercover police officer “he contacted through a gay dating website.”

A gay dating website? I”m sure that whatever site it is - it’s a gay sex site - not "a gay dating website."

Right off the bat this story is suspect. How did Eric Dean Lewis choose to meet an undercover police officer to communicate with online? He chose to meet and hook up with a police officer - instead of hundreds of other guys online.  The police officer said or did something to stand out in the crowd, and I find it hard to believe that Eric Dean Lewis randomly started communicating with the police officer to arrange a tryst.

Joshua Melvin of the Mercury News reports:
Police began investigating Lewis after getting a tip that he was involved in drugs, said Gregory. That tip led to an undercover officer to start chatting with Lewis on a gay dating website.
The police arrested the suspect at the train station, and then went to his house and found a quarter-ounce of methamphetamine, drug scales, alleged GHB, and unidentified pills. That small amount of evidence was enough for the Santa Clara Police Department to brand Lewis a drug dealer, and that’s absolutely ridiculous.

Lewis is a grammar school principal in Santa Clara. The newspaper states:
Santa Clara Unified School District officials said they are shocked at the arrest of the "well-regarded" employee and have placed him on unpaid administrative leave. Lewis could not be reached for comment.

Santa Clara Unified Superintendent Dr. Bobbie Plough said the arrest comes without warning for the district and has no connection to students at Montague.

"The community felt he was well-regarded," Plough said. "It's very much a shock."
What really bothers me about this story is the fact that a police department got a tip about someone, and then targeted a gay man on a gay sex site. They tried to nab Lewis - and entrapped him on a gay sex site. That is illegal!

Do they target straight men online in similar fashion on straight sex sites? Do they investigate and entrap women that way? Lesbians? Of course not. If they thought the guy had a drug problem, they could have contacted him and told him to get help.

I’m sure it will come out that they only investigate gay men this way, and that’s discriminatory and poor police practice, and entrapment to boot. 

It's disgusting that they can destroy a guy’s life over an issue that's a public health issue, and not a public safety issue. Then again - police departments across the country do that every day.

The Santa Clara Police Department should be ashamed of themselves. With all of the homicides in the south bay this year, you’d think they would have more important things to do.

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Bravo! Major League Baseball Executive Says “I’m Gay”

Following in the footsteps of the Golden State Warrior’s CEO Rick Welts, the former owner of the Pittsburgh Pirates baseball franchise revealed that he’s gay, in an interview with The New York Times OP-ED columnist Frank Bruni.

Kevin McClatchy was the owner and CEO of the Pirates from 1996 to 2007. When he assumed ownership of major league baseball’s Pittsburgh team, he was the youngest owner in baseball at 33.

Kevin is originally from Sacramento.  He is an heir, and chairman of the board, of the McClatchy Company, which publishes 30 daily newspapers across the country - including the Sacramento Bee.

Kevin arranged the interview with Bruni in order to publicly admit that he is gay. He acknowledges his internal struggles, and the myriad of sacrifices that he felt he had to make, in order to be a successful executive in the world of baseball.

The article is entitled “A New Inning, Late in the Game” and Bruni writes:
THE way Kevin McClatchy figured it, he had to choose. He could indulge his dream of presiding over a big-time professional sports team, or he could be open about his sexuality. The two paths didn’t dovetail.

And for all of that time, he took pains not to let his players, the owners of other teams or anyone beyond a tiny circle of family and close friends learn that he was gay.

McClatchy said that he frequently heard homophobic language during his days in baseball. It convinced him that keeping his sexual orientation hidden was best.

McClatchy loves baseball, and wanted to build a successful team for the city of Pittsburgh. Bruni notes:
That passion is also evident in his voice when he talks about baseball. He noted, proudly, that the sport’s caretakers ended racial segregation before some other segments of society did.

But, he added, “I don’t think they equate breaking the color barrier with Jackie Robinson to, ‘Hey, by the way, we’ve never had one player announce they’re gay while playing baseball.’ ”

“You’re not going to solve any problem until you start a dialogue,” he said. “And there’s no dialogue right now.” He hopes that his candor helps foster one, he said, though he doesn’t have any planned agenda of extensive public speaking. He can’t turn himself into an extrovert overnight.
Living a double life, and hiding who you are, adds a tremendous amount of stress to one’s personal and professional life. That stress often extends to the individual’s friends and family too. After reading the article it appears that Kevin is still living with a lot of that stress - which is too bad.

I give him a lot of credit for owning who he is. Sports is the last bastion in our culture, where a macho image reigns supreme. What I find most ironic is that gay men can be just as masculine as our straight brethren. Regardless, the world becomes more welcoming when a Kevin McClatchy is honest and owns who they are.

I have to thank Kevin for taking the difficult and courageous step to publicly concede that he’s a gay man. While he may not realize it right now, in a small way he’s following in the footsteps of Jackie Robinson - by raising awareness and being a gay trailblazer in the world of sports.

Bravo to that!

PS: Homophobe in Chief Rick Santorum is indirectly responsible for introducing McClatchy to his partner. I wonder if Santorum sends an anniversary card?

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San Francisco Celebrates At The 29th Folsom Street Fair

 It was a beautiful day for the 29th Annual Folsom Street Fair on Sunday. Police estimate that 400,000 people attended our street fair celebrating the fetish community.

In the San Francisco Chronicle’s story 50 Shades of Fetish at Folsom St. Fair,  Carolyne Zinko reported:
Suburbia may be open to the idea of bondage-tinged romance, thanks to the best-selling "Fifty Shades of Grey" trilogy, but may not be ready for the Folsom Street Fair just yet.

Among the costumed participants at the 29th annual leather and fetish fair, which drew an estimated 400,000 people to Folsom Street on Sunday to celebrate alternative sexuality, were men in leather chaps and studded vests and police-like hats; citizens in latex bodysuits and hoods that covered their faces; and women in corsets and fishnet stockings carrying whips.
Next up is the Castro Street Fair on Sunday October 7th, 2012.


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Rutgers Kicks SEC Ass 35-26

Fayetteville, Arkansas — The Rutgers Scarlet Knights (4-0) defeated the Arkansas Razorbacks (1-3) on Saturday 35-26. Playing in front of 72,543 hostile fans at Razorback Stadium, the Rutgers football team proved they are for real. 

Veteran sportswriter and RU Alumnus Tom Luicci reports:
It came as almost no surprise to anyone that Saturday night’s Rutgers-Arkansas game was essentially won by the dazzling play of the star quarterback.
Except it wasn’t Tyler Wilson, first-team all-SEC a year ago and a future NFL first-round pick. This one was won by star-in-the-making Gary Nova.

The Rutgers sophomore turned in the best game of his career — and the third-best passing performance in school history — as the Scarlet Knights won a shootout with Arkansas, 35-26, before a crowd of 72,543 at Razorback Stadium.
I’m immensely proud of the Scarlet Knights, and am looking forward to their game against UConn in 2 weeks.

According to Yahoo Sports:
Rutgers trailed 10-0 early before rallying to take a 28-13 lead. Nova then staved off a late Arkansas comeback with a 60-yard touchdown pass to Mark Harrison.

''In the end, it was a win the Rutgers' way,'' Coach Kyle Flood said. ''Toughness, momentum swings, the ability to fight through adversity and big plays in the kicking game. The bye comes at a good time for us; we need to get healthy here. A win we're very proud of.''
Upstream Red Team! Red Team Upstream! RAH! RAH! Rutgers RAH!

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September 23, 2012

Check Out This Message From Sarah Silverman

This shiksa loves Miss Sarah Silverman. She’s adorably cute, hysterically funny, very smart, loves the gays, and was the 2012 Grand Marshall of San Francisco’s Pride parade.

Sarah has a very important message for people who intend to vote in the 2012 Presidential election. The message is different than her 2008 election video message, The Great Schlep, which was addressed to people who had gran’s or nana’s or bubbe’s living in Florida. This message is for everyone and well worth the 3 or 4 minutes of your time.

You might not want to play the video at work or around children - as she mentions "ass fucking" in the opening of the video. 

Sarah would also like you to check out Let My People Vote 2012.

Thank you Sarah! You rock!

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Grindr News: Paris Hilton Is The New Spokesmodel For Blendr

Paris Hilton pisses off the gays with homophobic remarks.

Much Ado About Nothing

Paris Hilton was in New York riding in a cab with a gay male friend. Quel surprise!

Her gay male friend told Paris about the gay mobile phone app Grindr. You might have forgotten about it, because it's filled with fakers (people using fake photos), headless torsos, and dudes with boyfriends who are bored and “just want to chat.”

Now do you remember what Grindr is?

Paris’ immediate reaction was “gay guys are the horniest in the world. They're disgusting. Dude, most of them probably have AIDS."

Her private conversation created headlines - as she had no idea that the New York cabbie was secretly recording her conversation.

The LGBT world was shocked and hurt. Fag hags across the universe were crushed. Kevin Fallon at The Daily Beast wrote:

Celebutante/heiress/failed reality-TV star, singer, and actress Paris Hilton is in hot water after a cab driver leaked a recorded conversation between Hilton and a friend about the gay hookup app Grindr. During the loathsome exchange, Hilton calls gay men “disgusting” and “the horniest people in the world,” and eloquently concludes that they will all “like, die of AIDS.” Even for a public figure so used to controversy, the firestorm ignited by the comments signal Hilton may have hit a new low.
The Daily Beast’s Kevin Fallon went a little overboard with his description of what happened. A “loathsome exchange?” I think not. Gay men speak that way all the time, so why was it so shocking that Paris Hilton uttered similar sentiments, privately to a gay male friend?  

Paris got in touch with her publicist (of course), and immediately issued a long apology. While the apology was obviously written by said publicist - I have no doubt that Paris is sincerely sorry that what she said privately may have hurt a number of people. If Paris pisses the gays off - she would lose a large chunk of her friends.

Grindr mobile phone app screenshot.
A Grindr screenshot. See for yourself!
I took a screenshot of Grindr. If you didn’t know what the app was and saw this on someone’s phone - you might have a visceral reaction like Paris Hilton did.

The only part of Paris Hilton’s statement that I have a problem with was her comment that “gay guys are the horniest in the world.” Guys are the horniest in the world - whether gay or bi or straight - and I find it hard to believe she hasn’t figured that out.

Grindr has a good opportunity to introduce Paris Hilton as the spokesmodel for Blendr. Blendr is owned by Grindr, and is the mobile phone app for men and women to hook up.
And we all know that Paris Hilton knows how to hook up.  

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