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May 15, 2015

The Big Gay Hate Machine Is Searching For Our Next Victim

This graphic asks "Why is Reagan silent about Aids? What is really going on at the Center for Disease Control, the Federal Drug Administration, and the Vatican?" Which are questions that gay activists posed in the 1980's during the height of the AIDS pandemic.

We have laws in this country that are meant to protect gay people from anti-gay discrimination, and when those laws are broken there are consequences.

by Roy Steele

When the butcher, or the baker, or the candlestick maker, consciously decide to deny their goods or services to gay people, under the guise of “religious freedom,” they are breaking the law, regardless of how they choose to justify their discriminatory action.

I think it’ funny how “conservatives” don’t want undocumented immigrants to be given legal status, because they allegedly “broke the law,” but it’s ok to break the law when discriminating against the gay community.

This double standard from the right, and in the right-wing media, goes on and on, and they don’t seem to be accountable to anyone.

I’m going to take the unusual step of answering and refuting an opinion piece that was written by Dr. Susan Berry, and published on the website The headline is provocative and inflammatory, and it’s entitled “Who will be the next victim of the big gay hate machine?”

Dr. Susan Berry is a conservative writer and contributor to, which is described as a conservative news and opinion website. Dr. Berry’s biography says that “Susan Berry has a doctorate in psychology. She writes about cultural, educational, and healthcare policy issues.”

I tried to reach out to Dr. Berry, and wanted to speak or communicate with her. I tried to find contact information for Dr. Berry online, and couldn’t find her on twitter, and couldn’t find an email address on

She wrote about the “boycott” of Ian Simpson Reisner’s New York businesses, because of his support for anti-gay politicians, and I wanted to discuss her opinion piece. If she ever reads this, I’d still like to speak with her.

I hope that she and others who like to attack the LGBT rights movement, will read this to better understand our mission, and our point of view.

A screenshot by of the headline from that says "WHO WILL BE THE NEXT VICTIM OF THE BIG GAY HATE MACHINE?"

Cue the dramatic music --- and this writer is playing the role of the “big gay hate machine.”
Perhaps just two or three decades ago, gay and lesbian individuals and their support groups expressed a desire for others to accept them for who they were. Most of them likely struggled with their sexual identity, and ultimately, they wanted to know that the important people in their lives loved them and cared for them no matter what. Acceptance was the goal for gays and lesbians back then. My, how things have changed.
That lead paragraph is problematic on many levels. Dr. Susan Berry says that from roughly 1985 through 1995 (two or three decades ago), that the gay rights movement was focused on finding love and acceptance from our families and loved ones. Love and acceptance was our goal? Really? Surely she jests.

I must ask Dr. Berry how she can say that the goal of the gay rights movement was love and acceptance, when she is so patently wrong. During the time period that she referenced, gay men were dropping dead like flies. AIDS was a pandemic that spread like a wildfire, while politicians turned a blind eye to the public health crisis, because of their bigotry and prejudice. We are still living with the fallout from our government’s failure to address the AIDS pandemic, and that slow response to a very serious epidemic resulted in countless deaths.

Why were there countless deaths? Because of bigotry and anti-gay discrimination. That’s what the gay rights movement was focused on two and three decades ago, NOT  love and acceptance.

I personally lost too many friends that I loved to AIDS, and those senseless deaths will stay with me forever. I could write about the hospital visits, and hospice visits, and the funeral services, but this isn’t about me - it’s about those who criticize and demean the gay community. Did Dr. Berry watch vibrant people in their twenties die in the most painful and wretched ways? I doubt it.

The iconic pink triangle graphic with the text "silence equals death" from the twentieth century that was used by aids activists.
The LGBT community knows what happens when bigotry and prejudice are allowed to run rampant, and that’s how the slogan “silence equals death” was born. We were militant and we were loud, and we forced change. If we made you feel uncomfortable, we were effective and doing our job, and it’s no different today.

When a politician or religious leader speaks about being anti-gay or criticizes same-sex marriage, we want them to be uncomfortable, because there is NO rational reason to discriminate against any lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender individual whatsoever. No rational reason. Ever!
In 2015, unconditional love, respect, and dignity are out the door. The militant LGBT lobby now wants blood – your lifeblood. If you aren’t willing to stand up in the public square and declare your undying support for same-sex marriage – you’ll be trashed.
We don’t want your lifeblood, and we don’t actually give a shit whether you personally support gay marriage or not. You are entitled to think or say whatever you like. The minute you make a conscious effort to oppose the gay rights movement, and stand in the public square, and work to oppose equal rights, you will be trashed and criticized for it. That’s when the gloves come off, because there is no rational reason to oppose gay rights.
You don’t deserve to work, to own a business, to be able to support your family, to practice your faith, to have a different opinion. You’re nothing – because you don’t want what they want.
You don’t have to want what we want - that’s absurd.

If you own a business that provides goods or services to the public, you are required to serve the public equally, and you must comply with the public accommodation laws in your jurisdiction. Refusing service to gay people because of your "faith," is not compliant with the law, and that’s ILLEGAL. I’d like to know the passages in scripture that justifies and articulates this discrimination, because they don’t exist!

We have laws that are meant to protect gay people from discrimination. Remember that we are a nation of laws, and failure to observe those laws have consequences.

When the butcher, or the baker, or the candlestick maker, consciously decide to deny their goods or services to LGBT people, under the guise of “religious freedom,” they are breaking the law, regardless of how they choose to justify their discriminatory action. When that happens the right-wing extremists cry foul, and say that “religious freedom” is under attack. They demand that their "religious freedom" is protected, while those specious claims and charges ignore the fact that they broke the law. That’s outright hypocrisy and a double standard.

I have to repeat that it’s funny how “conservatives” don’t want undocumented immigrants to be given legal status, because they allegedly “broke the law,” but it’s perfectly acceptable to break the law when discriminating against the LGBT community.
It seems as if the LGBT “agenda” has veered from one that holds up humanity and compassion to one that is filled with vengeance and anger.
The LGBT community has more humanity and compassion among our ranks, than the world will ever know. Study the AIDS pandemic for a start. And remember that our agenda begins and ends with equality. Period.
The militant LGBT lobby does not represent all – and likely not even most – gays and lesbians. Still, it is calling the shots, spewing hate at anyone who dares challenge its agenda. All must fully embrace the gay lifestyle or be targeted on social media, in their businesses, and even their homes. Love and support for individuals who happen to be gay are sadly cast aside.
So hate-filled is the militant gay lobby that it demands lockstep obedience from gays and lesbians, as well – those whose “rights” they supposedly are here to protect.
Gay entrepreneurs and real estate developers Mati Weiderpass and Ian Reisner thought America was still America, and they could invite people they disagree with about some things over for coffee. The two hosted an event for Sen. Ted Cruz (R-TX) to discuss Israel – about which they share similar views.
Where’s the shovel? I just encountered a bunch of baseless B.S. that needs cleaning up. The militant LGBT lobby? Excuse me? This militant LGBT “lobby” and community is so small and outnumbered by any stretch of the imagination, that this statement is not only misleading, but comical too. Hyperbolic bullshit and stretching the truth is a self-serving exercise that obscures the truth.

When powerful politicians and religious leaders express their myopic views about the LGBT community, they are exercising their “free speech” rights that are protected by the Constitution. When we cry foul, they claim that their “religious freedom” is under attack, when it’s their hate and bigotry that we're criticizing.

Saying that everyone must “embrace the gay lifestyle” is puerile, and indicates that Dr. Berry thinks being gay is a choice, when it’s not. I have to question her expertise, because if she knew our community, she would know that “lockstep obedience” is ridiculous and unattainable.

As for Mati Weiderpass and Ian Reisner, they invited a virulent anti-gay politician into their home, when they knew full well that the man from Texas loves saying that he will do everything in his power to deny LGBT people of their civil rights. Then they lied about it, to cover their tracks. This was the second time they hosted an anti-gay politician in their home. Let’s see if they do it again.
But the LGBT haters – who now aim to dictate what all gays may say – would not tolerate the fact that Cruz isn’t in line with the “agenda” on same-sex marriage. Therefore, Weiderpass and Reisner had to be destroyed, via boycotts and social media campaigns. Because the haters insist if they don’t own you completely, you must be reduced to nothing, Reisner succumbed to the pressure and apologized to the Gay Force for the heinous crime of inviting someone with a different opinion on marriage over for conversation and friendly debate.
The gay hate machine is not happy merely destroying businesses and livelihoods. This militant lobby has also hijacked the civil rights movement in the hope that few will recall what that struggle was really about.
These two gay businessmen market their businesses to the LGBT community. The LGBT community works hard, and we spend our money with businesses who support us and further our cause, not with businesses who work to undermine our civil rights. Conservatives love to crow about liberty - isn’t that what liberty is all about?

To say that we have “hijacked the civil rights movement in the hope that few will recall what the struggle was really about” is ignorant and a fabricated lie.
The civil rights movement was based on Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s belief in God’s love for all humanity, regardless of who you were. LGBT militant activists, however, have defiled it by spewing hatred for all who believe in the traditional order of one man-one woman marriage. While back then, blacks struggled to be seen as human beings, today’s militant gays won’t allow others who differ with their livelihood, their faith, and their freedom – all the things that make them human and free.
People who “differ with our livelihood” seek to deny us our basic civil rights. We love most of humanity and agree with Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King’s principles of non-violent protests and confrontations. If you aren’t in favor of gay marriage, you shouldn’t marry a gay person. It’s that simple - and don’t fight against something that doesn't affect you!  Mind your own business and we will leave you alone.
In Russellville, Arkansas, on Saturday, young militant gays who would not tolerate a person of faith having her say, intimidated, bullied, and shouted over a black church leader invited to give an address to supporters of traditional marriage. She had to be silenced because that’s the kind of “civil rights movement” militant gays have – one in which only they have “rights,” and no one else does.
How sad for young people, confused and scared by sexual identity concerns. In the past, they could find a therapist or counselor to talk to about their struggles. Today, if they can get any therapist to meet with them at all, they are likely to be told to deny their struggles and simply embrace their sexuality without question. Where is the humanity and compassion in that?
How dare you bring up young people! You don’t give a shit about young LGBT people, and they are NOT germane to your opinion piece.

What is a reasonable response to people who espouse hate, and express their desire to deny you of your civil rights? You say a “person of faith” was “intimidated and bullied” because the LGBT community denies others their rights?

That is an outrageous statement, and a total fabrication, that misses the facts.

Commenting on how sad it is for young LGBTQI people, and speculating about how a therapist will choose to treat them, is irresponsible and malpractice. If you have a license to practice psychotherapy, you should lose it.

What kind of nation are we? Are we a country that personifies equal rights? Or will we go down the road to apartheid? If everyone isn’t treated equally, will we be our best?

I can’t just gloss over what Dr. Berry characterizes as unreasonable behavior by “young militant gays.”

Two years ago, liberal columnist Michael Kinsley rushed to defend Dr. Ben Carson after he falsely equated being gay, with bestiality and pedophilia. Kinsley wrote that being against marriage equality doesn’t make you a monster. I disagreed, and I wrote to Kinsley to tell him that he was completely off the mark.

This is part of what I wrote to Kinsley at the time, and it is applicable here.
In our free speech society, there’s anti-gay rhetoric everywhere. The intolerance reflected in the anti-gay hate speech that’s infected our churches, our news, and political rhetoric, adversely affects our society, and especially our children.
We hear about a rash of adolescent suicides, and a bullying epidemic in our culture. There are social scientists and medical professionals who have researched these problems, and there is a correlation between anti-gay hate speech and the mental health of adolescent LGBT kids.
With an inordinate amount of adolescent children who harm themselves, and in some cases, take their own lives, your suggestion that we should tolerate remarks like Dr. Carson’s is outrageous. How can you tell us to tolerate the incendiary propaganda and lies, when they have such a grave effect on so many people?
You can think that Dr. Ben Carson’s remarks were silly, while I find them reprehensible. When the next gay kid commits suicide, talk to their parents and explain that Dr. Carson’s rhetoric was silly. When a parent finds out that their child is a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender teen, and they throw their kid out of the house, I’d like to hear you tell the homeless kid that what Dr. Carson said was harmless.
Right-wing Iowa radio host Steve Deace who described equal rights proponents as "cultural marxists" fighting a"rainbow jihad."
I didn't see one mention of the harm that anti-gay hate speech causes on Dr. Berry is a psychologist, and should be aware of these issues. Why didn't she talk about that? Because her commentary could be characterized as hate speech.
David Weigel, writing at Bloomberg, observed the increasing string of casualties to the militant gay lobby’s hate: “First they came for Brendan Eich, the former CEO of Mozilla. Then they came for the Memories Pizza restaurateurs in Indiana. And then they came for Weiderpass and Reisner and Cruz.”
We could add wedding bakers, bridal shop owners, photographers, and even San Francisco’s Archbishop Salvatore Cordileone to that list. Who will be the next victim of the hate?
Weigel noted conservative Iowa talk show host Steve Deace’s assessment of the situation:
The swarm of locusts we’ve dubbed “the Rainbow Jihad” on my show is so out of control, it now threatens its own benefactors. If these cultural Marxists won’t even tolerate leaders in their own community like Reisner having a peaceful dialogue with the other side, then it’s not a movement but an inquisition.
How fitting is it that you end your opinion citing an incendiary and inflammatory statement that talks about a “rainbow jihad” and “cultural Marxists,” and an intolerant community. If you want to know what I think of Steve Deace’s comments regarding a community he knows nothing about, see the photo of him above.

It is you, and your compatriots, who are intolerant. Why should the LGBT community accept the hate and bigotry that is thrown our way on a daily basis?

Social conservatives have lost the battle, and will lose the war. Why not acknowledge that?

Let’s put down our weapons and come together to fight inequality, because no matter how you slice it, it doesn’t just affect me, it affects you too.

Written with peace and love in my heart, for everyone who can read this. See - I’m all about love and want to extinguish the hate.

Peace out!

[Aside: Excuse me while I vomit.]

straight talk in a queer world.   

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